Children in Mediation

Children are often major casualties of family disputes, divorce and separation.

They have to deal with emotions and feelings that are not only hard to understand, but difficult to put into words.


The Lost Voice

  • The law states that when parents are making decisions affecting children, wherever possible the wishes, views and feelings of those children should be heard and taken into account.
  • Our mediators are trained and qualified to consult children on family issues, if you both agree, through child inclusive mediation.


The aim is to give your child a voice, but ultimately the decision making process resides with you as parents.



Children have the right to a relationship with both parents (as long as it is safe) and their needs are important.


Child Inclusive Mediation

  • Child inclusive consultations are designed to run alongside your mediation with the objective of helping your children to talk about what is important to them without the worry of retribution or causing harm to either parents.
  • We will only consult your children with the written consent of both parents.
  • Child inclusive consultations in mediation are carried out in a safe and confidential environment.
  • Feedback will only be given to you with your child™s consent.


No Pressure

  • Your children will not be asked for decisions on future parenting arrangements and we will not force them to discuss any issues they do not wish to.
  • We aim to find out how your children are coping and help them to understand all the changes that are happening in their lives.
  • They will be able to openly and honestly communicate with the mediator and only what they wish to be fed back to their parents will be, otherwise it is completely confidential, unless we feel children could be at risk as a result of what they have disclosed.


What do family mediators do?

  • Family mediators are trained to work with people whose relationships have broken down.
  • Our Mediators assist you to find solutions that both of you can agree on.
  • A mediator will ask questions to understand your situation.
  • Unlike going to court, you stay in control. No-one can make you do anything against your wishes
  • Discussions are confidential.
  • The mediator is also trained to help you find other help and support services if necessary.